I guess it's not hard to believe when the girls of our future have role models like Miley Cyrus to lead the way. Miley gets knocked a lot but she's really surrounded by girls just like her, she's just my most recent example.
The more I watch the news, read the entertainment magazines, and listen to the radio, I can't help but wonder...has the age of the classy, modest girl been lost entirely?
Thinking on it, I know that these girls are out there, they're just a minority at this point. Why did being half naked and leaving nothing to the imagination become cute? When did telling Matt Lauer that he is too old to have sex become acceptable news coverage? Is it really so bad to be respectable, have a mouth filled with kind words, and a brain filled with more than just rap lyrics?
No it's not. Being classy is courageous these days. These girls stand out. They are not normal. And I hate that they are now the exception, not the rule But no one asked me my opinion.
I can only hope that with a world so filled with sexual innuendos, demeaning song lyrics, and seriously raunchy clothes that we as parents to our sweet little girls will harness the innocence they are born with and nourish it. I know as the mother of a daughter, I shudder to think what life will be like when my baby is faced with the harsh realities of puberty. I am determined to raise a daughter who says yes ma'am. A daughter who can tell a boy no and feel proud of her body without having to flaunt it.
I'm going back to the days where respect was expected. I see these girls nowadays that curse like sailors and dress like hookers; not just young girls, but girls my age. Who know better. And their constant woe is that they just can't find a good guy. And I'm pretty sure they never will.
If you talk like trash, dress like trash, and act like trash...honey you better believe he is going to treat you like trash. Every time.
Let's be more for our daughters. After all, we are their biggest role models. I want my daughter to know the difference between love and lust. I want her to be smart but also to know how to whip up a healthy dinner from scratch. It's not that I'm setting a standard she will never be able to achieve. Not at all. Being classy and charming can be taught and should be expected. I'm so tired of the excuses we make for these girls nowadays.
It's not the way of the world. It's not genetics. It's laziness. Parents have gotten lazy and allowed television and friends and media to teach our kids instead of doing it ourselves. There are good role models out there. There are amazing programs and places that highlight manners and etiquette. We can't get complacent you guys. These are our daughters we're talking about.
Do we really want a generation of "Grey"-bies born to mother's who have no shame and thank porn for the existence of their child? I think not. Be more than that please.
Take the time to teach your daughter what a healthy relationship with a man is. Make her mind her manners. Teach her to be thankful. Let her shine like a diamond and treat her like the brightest of stars. Show her what real love is and she will love herself.
I can promise you this. My daughter will be raised the best way I know how. She may fuss and fight me tooth and nail but she WILL know the difference between what is right and what is easy.
Always remember, modest is hottest. Abstinence is awesome. And being classy takes courage.